{Tutorial} Neapolitan Layer Cake

Neapolitian Cake by JavaCupcake.comOoooooooooooh I’ve been in a funk.  A baking fun.  Last week I make a double chocolate layer cake but since then… nothing.  I haven’t even been motivated to make rice krispy treats.  (I have 4 boxes of Rice Krispies – thank you WIC.)  So today, I opened up my baking cookbooks, browsed Pinterest and checked out a few of my favorite blogs.  One of the themes I saw running across all of them – Neapolitian.  Chocolate, Strawberry and Vanilla together to make one delicious dessert.  So, with Mother’s Day this past weekend, I decided that I’d make a Mother’s Day Neapolitan Layer Cake to celebrate.

Mother's Day Neapolitian Cake by JavaCupcake.com

My mom passed away 3 years ago… so she was definitely on my mind as I was making this cake.  Especially when it was time to sit down and enjoy a slice.  I’m certain she would have enjoyed this cake with a big glass of milk!  Three layers of decadent cake filled with chocolate and strawberry frosting and topped with vanilla buttercream.  Eat bite has a unique flavor…. it’s like a party in your mouth with every bite!

Neapolitian Cake by JavaCupcake.com

What really inspired me to make this particular cake was one of my most favorite bloggers, Amanda of i am baker with her Neapolitan Rose Cake.  I’ve used her tutorials to make a rose cake before, but this one was going to be different.  I was going to make the neapolitan cake, but I wasn’t going to do roses.  Instead, I’d just smooth out the three flavors of frosting over the three different layers of cake.  But still, that’s a lot of work! I had a feeling thought it was going to be so worth it in the end.  And ya know what… all the hard work was TOTALLY worth it in the end because this cake was delicious!

So, instead of posting detailed recipes for this cake, I decided to write a tutorial on how to assemble and make this cake.  I’ve posted the chocolate and vanilla cake recipes several times before, but tried a new strawberry recipe… I’ve linked to all of them below.  You’ll also see what supplies you need to make this cake and a detailed tutorial to assemble it.

Enjoy!

{Tutorial} Neapolitan Layer Cake

For the chocolate cake:

I used THIS RECIPE for the chocolate cake. It actually makes too much batter… so when you prepare it, measure out a dozen cupcakes first and then pour the rest in your 9-inch round cake pan. Bake as directed in the recipe.

For the chocolate frosting:

I used my basic chocolate buttercream recipe, found HERE. You’ll probably use ALL of this for the cake, so you might want to make extra to frost the extra cupcakes.

For the strawberry cake:

I tried a new recipe for this cake and I think it turned out amazing!  Thanks to the blog, I made that! for the recipe!

For the strawberry frosting:

I took my basic vanilla buttercream recipe and substituted about 1/4 cup strawberry puree (that I had reserved from the cake recipe) for the cream. I also added 1 tsp strawberry extract instead of vanilla extract. It was super yummy!

For the vanilla cake & frosting:

I used a whole batch of batter using my favorite vanilla cupcake recipe. It made a very tall cake & I trimmed off a lot of extra cake. So next time, I’d scoop out 6 cupcakes first, then pour the rest into the pan to bake. I also used this same recipe for the vanilla frosting, but I doubled it.

Neapolitan Cake by JavaCupcake.com

Supplies needed to assemble the cake:

-Cake layers and frosting
-Offset spatula
-Wax paper
-Cake stand or cake turn table
-Paper towels
-1 cup measuring cup
-Spatula/scraper

Assembling the Neapolitan Cake:

  • Trim the three cake layers so they are the same height.  
  • Place a piece of wax paper on your cake turn table and place the chocolate layer with the trimmed side up.
  • Place 2 cups of chocolate frosting on to the first layer and spread evenly over the top.
  • Set the strawberry layer, trimmed side up, on to the chocolate frosting and gently press down.
  • Place 2 cups of strawberry frosting onto the top and spread evenly.
  • Place the finally vanilla layer, trimmed side DOWN, onto the strawberry frosting and gently press down.
  • Crumb coat each layer of cake with the coordinating frosting and place in the freezer for 20 minutes.
  • Once the cake has set – begin frosting the outside of the cake starting with the chocolate on the bottom and working your way up to the top with the vanilla.  Use 2 cups of vanilla frosting on the top layer of the cake. If you need an idea of how to apply the frosting, check out my Ombre Cake Tutorial – see steps 3-6 for how to apply the frosting in layers on the side of the cake.
  • Make sure to clean off your spatula often with the paper towels. Mixing flavors at the seams will result in smears of color onto the wrong layers.
  • Using your offset spatula, do your best to smooth the sides of the cake without smudging the colors together.  This process takes a steady hand and a lot of time.  GO SLOW.  Unlike the ombre cake, you don’t want the colors to collide together to create the gradual change of colors… you want three distinct color layers – but still want a smooth, finished look.
  • To transfer the cake to your cake plate, gently and carefully pull the wax paper and cake off the edge of the cake turn table.  Place your hand under the cake as your peel away the wax paper and pull the cake completely off the stand.  Transfer the cake to the cake stand and use any additional chocolate frosting you have to touch up the bottom edges.

{Giveaway} The Secret Lives of Baked Goods

Today is an excellent day for my good friend, Jessie aka CakeSpy!  Today – she launches her publicity tour for her new book, “The Secret Lives of Baked Goods: Sweet Stories & Recipes for America’s Favorite Desserts”!  Oh… and the book hits the shelves in bookstores across the world today too!! AWESOME!!

I met Jessie back in 2010 when we both lived in Washington State.  You can read all about the day we met in this post!  Jessie also did a super awesome “Ask the Baker” interview for my blog which you can read here!

Oh… and I was on her blog too!! Cause guess what… I helped test recipes for this book!! Read my interview on CakeSpy here!

{Giveaway} Win "The Secret Lives of Baked Goods" by Jessie Oleson Moore aka CakeSpy on JavaCupcake.com

Here’s what Amazon.com has to say about “The Secret Lives of Baked Goods”:

Have you ever wondered where the ideas for baking red velvet cupcakes, brownies, birthday cake, Girl Scout cookies, and other dessert recipes came from? Discover the history behind America’s most popular and nostalgic desserts with popular CakeSpy blogger and self-proclaimed “dessert detective” Jessie Oleson Moore. Moore has put her sweet-sleuthing skills to work uncovering the fascinating histories and tastiest recipes for America’s favorite sweets, including whoopee pies, chocolate chip cookies, Baked Alaska, and New York cheesecake. From romantic musings on how desserts got their names to sugar-fueled scandals, these classic recipes and photographs are guaranteed to offer food for thought and leave you with plenty of room for dessert.

JavaCupcake & CakeSpy at the Cupcakes Take the Cake Birthday Bash – Dec. 2010

Did you know this isn’t Jessie’s first book?  She also wrote “CakeSpy Presents: Sweet Treats for a Sugar Filled Life” – another MUST have book for your kitchen!  Get that book HERE!

So you MUST go see Jessie at one of these locations… since I’m in Germany and can’t go see her… make sure you tell her HELLO from me and give her a great big hug! OH- and buy her book! You can do that HERE!

“The Secret Lives of Baked Goods” Tour!

First Stop: Seattle! Tuesday, May 7th:
What: Signing and discussion
Where: University Book Store, 4326 University Way NE, Seattle.
When: 7-8 p.m. (this is still May 7th, in case you forgot)

Still in Seattle! Wednesday, May 8th:
What: Demo and Signing
Where: Book Larder, 4252 Fremont Ave. North, Seattle
When: 6:30-8:00 p.m.

Next Stop: Portland! Saturday, May 11:
What: Signing and craft sales at Crafty Wonderland! It isn’t a formal signing per se, but most of the real estate at my booth will be dedicated to book sales and I will be happy to either sell you a copy, or sign the one you already bought online.
Where: The Oregon Convention Center – Exhibit Hall D (don’t worry, there will be signs all over); 777 NE MLK Jr. Blvd., Portland
When: 11-6 p.m.

Next Stop: San Francisco! Monday, May 13th:
What: Discussion and Signing. Possibly in unicorn costume.
Where: Omnivore Books, 3885a Cesar Chavez Street, San Francisco.
When: 6-7 p.m.

Tuesday, May 14th:
What: Discussion and Signing
Where: Book Passage, San Francisco Ferry Bldg #42 San Francisco
When: 6-7 p.m.

And then, after a few days off, I’m off to…

Philadelphia- Tuesday, May 21:
What: Signing and discussion, with goodies!
Where: Anthropologie flagship store, 1801 Walnut Street, Philadelphia
When: 6-8 p.m.

Chicagoland! Thursday, May 23rd:
What: Discussion and Signing
Where: Warren-Newport Library, 224 N Oplaine Road, Gurnee, IL
When: Thursday, May 23rd, 1-2 pm

and then, the same day:
What: Signing and discussion
Where: Aspen Drive Library, 701 Aspen Drive, Vernon Hills IL
When: 7-8pm

Albuquerque, NM! Thursday, June 20:
What: Discussion and signing
Where: Bookworks, 4022 Rio Grande NW, Albuquerque
When: TBA

And then to New Jersey! June 29th:
What: Signing and Discussion
Where: Booktowne, 171 Main Street, Manasquan NJ
When: June 29th, 11 a.m.

And then back to Philadelphia! June 30:
What: Cake Baking Class! *There will be a fee for this class.
Where: COOK, Philadelphia
When: June 30, 2pm

Then, back to Seattle! July 13 and 14 (Sat and Sun):
What: Urban Craft Uprising!
Where: Seattle Center, Seattle!
When: July 13 and 14, 11-5pm

Want a copy of Jessie’s book, “The Secret Lives of Baked Goods”?  Just fill out the info the widget below! One lucky person will win the book!

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Happy 1st Birthday Matthew!

Photo Credit: Allie Beardsley Photography

Photo Credit: Allie Beardsley Photography

I’ve been awake since 0530, too excited to sleep.  Today is the first birthday of my baby boy, Matthew! One year ago today, via c-section, my sweet little man was born in Weiden, Germany at 8:31am.  Matthew William weighed 5lbs 12oz and was 19.5 inches long.

Matty was so tiny when he was born, it’s almost hard to believe that in just a year later, he’s grown into such a little man!  I’m sure he’s well over 20lbs now and at least 23in long… we’ll find out for sure tomorrow at his 1 year check-up though!

Photo Credit: Allie Beardsley Photography

Photo Credit: Allie Beardsley Photography

We started celebrating Matty’s birthday in the middle of February with a birthday photo session with Allie Beardsley Photography.   Allie did Matty’s birth pictures too so I was super excited when she was able to take his 1st birthday pictures as well.

For this photo session, I needed a great cake for Matty to eat, smash and get messy with!  I knew it just had to be pretty for pictures, so I made a yellow cake and frosted it with a flour frosting.  Pretty basic.

Photo Credit: Allie Beardsley Photography

Photo Credit: Allie Beardsley Photography

To decorate the cake, I went with the theme of his party – Sesame Street!  Since I’ve never done any kind of formal cake decorating I knew I had to keep things simple.  I colored the frosting in orange, yellow, green and blue then added a yellow border along the edges of the cake.  I used the green frosting to make the Sesame Street sign, outlined it in yellow then piped Matthew and the #1 on it.  I used the remaining colored frosting to pipe dots along the side of the cake.  Overall, I think it turned out pretty darn cute!  And… Matty had a BLAST smashing it and eating it!

Tonight we’re celebrating Matthew’s official birthday with mini chocolate chip cookie cakes.  I’ll be writing about them and the Sesame Street cupcakes I’m making for his big birthday party at the end of the month… so stay tuned for that!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MATTY PANTS!!! MOMMY LOVES YOU SO MUCH!!!! 

Photo Credit: Allie Beardsley Photography

And just because this picture is one of my absolute favorites – I had to share it with you! I ordered us matching Sesame Street birthday shirts to wear for all of Matty’s parties. On each shirt they had all the different nicknames we call Matthew – and of course, on his shirt, it says his name!

I ordered these shirts from Cheaper Than Shirt on ETSY. They were super easy to have custom made and were really reasonably priced! Plus – the people who run the shop were super nice and they shipped fast!

Photo Credit: Allie Beardsley Photography

Photo Credit: Allie Beardsley Photography

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Thank You Bread & And a Story About Cora

Although this post has a recipe at the end… it’s not the usual  post you’ll see here on my blog.  This is a very personal story of my life in November 2102.  A story that has changed me forever… 

The last three weeks have been the hardest weeks of my life.  I’ve been through a lot of stuff as an adult, but nothing really can compare to the devastation I have faced.

Three weeks ago on a Thursday, I went in for what my German doctor called a “special ultrasound.”  I was about 12 weeks pregnant and super excited to see my growing baby!  Typically, this screening & ultrasound isn’t done until 16-20 weeks in the States, but here in Germany, the doctors like to do it sooner.

For 30 minutes, I laid on the table, watching my little nugget swim around in my belly.  It had fingers and toes and was jumping around like crazy.  I watched in awe as I saw this precious life, my baby, alive in front of me! I was so excited!  But… sadly, that excitement was put to a stop when my doctor had asked me to wait in the lobby while he was called away for an emergency.  As he left he told me we’d have to “discuss the situation and how to proceed.”  My heart dropped.  Shit.  Something was wrong with my baby.

Those 15 minutes were probably the longest of my life up to then.  I called my husband and began sobbing, worrying, speculating what in the world could be wrong with my baby.  Finally, the doctor returned and began to explain what he saw in the ultrasound.

There are some things I really appreciate about having a German doctor.  This day, I was grateful for his inability to know how to “sugar coat” things in English.  He knew only enough English to tell me the facts and nothing more.  The doctor explained to me that my baby had a layer of fluid built up under the skin, surrounding the entire body and that the intestines were growing into the umbilical cord.  Both of these key indicators that the baby had a genetic disorder.  Which disorder, he was unsure of but needed to have further testing done to give a proper diagnosis.

The Chorionic Villis Sampling was scheduled for Tuesday.  Similar to an amniocentesis  this sampling tests the genetic make up of the tissue around the baby, which is the same as the baby.   It would tell us which genetic disorder the baby had.

I’ve had surgery before, I’ve broken bones, I’ve been in car accidents… but the pain this test caused me was like nothing I’d ever felt.  The needle into my uterus felt like it was just prodding into my soul, ripping my heart out at the same time.  This test was going to tell us the fate of our child… and I was scared and sad.  So very sad.

The results of the test came in on Friday.  The doctor confirmed what he suspected, our child had a genetic disorder called Trisomy 18. What this meant is that on the babies 18th chromosome, instead of two pairs of DNA, there were three.  This disorder causes all kinds of physical disabilities including a shortened life span.  Most don’t make it to birth and those that do die with in days.

Wow.  This was a lot to take it.  I mean, we’d researched the possibilities of what genetic disorder it could have been… but Trisomy 18 was just about the worst one possible.  Our baby was going to die.  Die sooner than any baby should die.  How in the world was I going to deal with this?

Our first decision was an easy one.  When the doctor asked how we wanted to proceed… either abortion or let the baby live as long as possible… we knew right away we wanted to give our baby a chance at life.  However short or long that would be… she deserved a chance to live.  So, we began planning what steps we’d need to take to get the best medical care possible for our child and a move back to the USA was starting to take place.

Doctors appointments were made for 5 hours away at Landstuhl Medical Center… the closest American doctor and actually the only place in Europe, Asia and Africa that had a genetic specialist, a visit to the Chaplain and we gathered the necessary paperwork for a move back home.  The puzzle pieces were moving and things were looking hopeful that we’d get our baby the best care possible.

We were holding on to the hope that our baby would make it to birth.  That we’d be able to hold her, touch her, tell her how much we loved her.  Oh…. did I mention that the genetic test also told us she was a girl?  So yes!! A girl! And we named her Cora Marie!   Through all the sadness, my husband and I truly believed Cora would beat all the odds and she’d be in that small percentage of babies who make it to birth and we’d be able to meet her! It really was the only way we kept our sanity, day to day…. the only way we could remain happy.

And we held on to that hope until Thursday of this past week.  Thursday, everything changed.  I woke up early in the morning and found blood after going to the bathroom.  I wanted to ignore it, but I couldn’t.  I started to worry.   I hoped that maybe it was just nothing… that’d it would go away.  But… it didn’t.  By early evening there was more blood… enough not to ignore.  So, my husband took me to the Emergency Room.

We were seen by a doctor who actually helped deliver Matthew back in March.  It was nice to see a familiar face.  She did an ultrasound to see how things were with the baby.  Immediately, I could tell something was wrong.  Cora wasn’t moving, she laid there in my belly so still, no movement at all.  And then, when the doctor moved the image to her chest area… there it was… no heartbeat.  And I knew… she was gone.   The doctor confirmed with a few more tests and measurements on the screen and then told us what we were seeing… no heartbeat and no bloodflow… our baby had died.

Wow… this was not what I wanted, expected or ever dreamed of happening.  It had already been such a stressful and emotionally charged 2 weeks… I just thought I’d have more time before I had to deal with this part.  I really just thought I’d have more time.

Now what? I asked the doctor.  Another shock came… I had to deliver my baby.  HUH? WHAT?  Yes… she was too big for the doctors to remove with a D&C and too small for a C-section removal.  I had to let my body deliver her naturally.  I was to stay overnight, see if my body would start the process on my own and if not, they’d give me some medication to help things along.

The next morning, nothing had happened so the doctors gave me that medicine.  It wasn’t until the second dose later that afternoon that I really felt things happening, changing, progressing.  My uterus was contracting and I was in so much pain… none of the pain killers the doctors had me on all day were working anymore.  We called the nurse in to let her know of the pain I was in and she said ok, left the room and wasn’t to be seen again.

As I was trying to get myself comfortable to help ease the pain, I got on my knees with my head on my pillow on my bed.  This seemed to be the only position I could get any relief.  And then… it happened.  My water broke.  With my first two kids, I had never experienced this sensation.  It was like a balloon burst between my legs and water spilled out everywhere.  I rushed to the bathroom to sit on the wheelchair toilet they had put in my room to collect fluids in situations just like this.  The remaining fluid rushed out and my contractions began to ease.   We called the nurse again, told her my water broke… and again she disappeared.

With no clue for what I should do next, I laid down on my bed and tried to rest.  My husband stroked my forehead and I fell asleep.  The first sleep I had gotten since I’d been at the hospital.

What happens next… it maybe be hard for you to read.  It’s graphic and upsetting.  So please, skip ahead as it may be difficult to get through.

As I lay in bed, trying to sleep, I am awakened by more fluid coming out of me.  I head back to the bathroom wheelchair toilet and sit there.  Still, no nurse or doctor had come to check on me or help me.  By this point, it had been about 20 minutes since my water broke.

Without warning from my body, I feel something warm slip out of me.  Not certain of what it was… I thought maybe a blood clot, I asked my husband to look.  I sat forward and he looked behind me.  His words still haunt me… It’s Cora, he said.  My hand covered my open mouth and I sat there in shock.  My baby was dangling from me.  I had just delivered her in a toilet.  I sent my husband outside to get a nurse, anyone to help… but no one came.  For 10 more minutes, I sat there.  What was I to do?  My baby was hanging from me and all I could do was sit there.  I held my husbands hand and we cried.  Cried for my baby, cried for us.  Cried.

Finally, the doctor arrived and he looks at me like… What? What’s going on?  I tell him… THE BABY CAME OUT!  She’s hanging there!!! He instructs me to get up and move to the bed.  The nurse holds Cora between my legs and I waddle to the bed.  I sit down, the doctor cuts the umbilical cord and lays my baby down on a feminine pad.  (This didn’t bother me until later…. but really, a pad?  He couldn’t find a blanket or towel or something?!!)  They left the room and gave us some time with our daughter.

She was so tiny.  Only 2 inches long.  Her bones had not developed yet, but her body was forming.  Head, body, arms, legs…. even little toes and fingers, knees too.  She had eyes, nose and a mouth too.  She was so tiny.  She was beautiful.

I held Cora and I told her how much I loved her, how sorry I was that she didn’t get to live longer… but that she was going to join my Mom in Heaven.  Grandma Nancy was waiting for her… I told Cora that Grandma was going to hold her, snuggle with her, sing to her and take care of her until we got to Heaven to be with her.

And that was it… 10 minutes with my daughter.

The nurses took me to the operating room and a D&C was performed to clean out my uterus and ensure everything was okay.  An hour after that procedure, I was heading home.

The following day was the most emotional for me.  I was pregnant, delivered a baby in a toilet and then came home… with no baby.   I wanted her so badly.  I wanted Cora in my life.  I wanted to hold her.  Love her.  Raise her.  I wanted for Matty to be a big brother to her.  For Emily to teach her everything she knew about what it meant to be a girl, a teenager.  But… I was never going to have any of that.  She was gone.  I was lost.  I cried most of the day.  I needed to release it all.

Last night, I had a dream… Cora came to me.  She looked to be about two months old.  Big eyes like Matty but they were brown like Emily’s and she had a head full of dark brown straight hair.  She looked healthy, happy and she gave me a look… a look so deep into my soul and she told me… Mommy, I’m okay.  I made it to Heaven and I’m with Grandma and everything is going to be okay.  I love you Mommy.

And I instantly felt peace.

See, a few years ago when my Mom died… she came to me in a dream a few days after she died too.  She told me something similar, that she had made it to Heaven and that everything was going to be okay.   I also, felt at peace with her passing.

Today, three days after I said goodbye to Cora… I am at peace.  I am still sad, I will always miss her.  But I feel peace.  I know she is in Heaven and I know that everything will be okay.

My husband and I also decided to get matching tattoos today to have something tangible to remember Cora by.  I didn’t have anything with her name on it, no blanket she laid in, no clothes she wore… so I thought a tatoo was fitting.  I got her name on my left wrist and Dave got the day she went to Heaven on his right wrist.  That way, everytime we hold hands… Cora will be there.

And I feel I need to take a moment to thank my husband.  Dave… there isn’t another person in this world that I would have wanted to experience all of this with.  You are the love of my life and I am so thankful to have your love through all of this.  This was the hardest thing I’ve ever done and having you with me made it somewhat more bearable.  Thank you Dave for loving me.  Thank you for loving Cora.  Thank you for holding me as I cried.  Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

During that 24 hours at the hospital, I was lucky enough to have two amazing friends step up and help out.  My friend Chrissy offered me emotional and moral support and my friend Chasity watched my kids for me.  And as the Facebook messages, text messages and emails poured in from friends near and far… it was these two ladies who really held my life together for me as I felt as it was all falling apart.

Chasity, Chrissy – I will forever be thankful what you did for me those days.  You held my family in your hands and you never let us fall.  You loved us, cared for us… and I can’t say it enough how grateful I am to have you in my life.  I love you!!!

So today, I baked some bread for them.  I simply call this bread “Thank You Bread”.  I’ve never made it before, but this recipe was derived from an applesauce bread my Dad makes every Christmas.  I just kicked it up a notch!

If you have sometone you need to say Thank you to, consider this bread and think of Cora for me! :)

Thank You Bread

3 loaves

Ingredients

  • 11 Tbsp unsalted butter, room temperature
  • 1 cup sugar
  • 1 cup light brown sugar, packed
  • 2 eggs
  • 2 tsp vanilla
  • 4 cups flour
  • 2 tsp baking soda
  • 1/2 tsp salt
  • 1 Tbsp cinnamon
  • 1 tsp nutmeg
  • 3 Tbsp dark chocolate cocoa powder
  • 3 cups unsweetened applesauce
  • 1 2/3 cup cinnamon chips (1 10oz bag)
  • 1 cup semi-sweet chocolate chips
  • 1 cup raisins

Instructions

  1. Preheat oven to 375 F degrees. Grease and flour 3 9x5x3 loaf pans. I also lined the bottoms with parchment paper.
  2. Cream together the butter and sugars. Add the eggs and vanilla and beat on high for 4-5 minutes. Make sure to scrape the sides of the bowl to make sure everything is incorporated.
  3. While that's beating, sift together the flour, cinnamon, nutmeg, baking soda, salt, and cocoa.
  4. Add the flour to the creamed mixture in three parts. Between each part, add half the applesauce.
  5. Fold in the cinnamon chips, chocolate chips and raisins.
  6. Scrape the sides of the bowl and mix 10 more strokes to ensure the batter is fully incorporated.
  7. Divide the batter into the three pans evenly.
  8. Bake for 40-50 minutes or until a toothpick comes out clean.
  9. Cool in pans for 20 minutes then remove to a wire rack to cool completely.
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One day at a time… that’s how I’m getting through this.  Great friends, an amazing husband… and one day at a time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

My 5th Marriage Anniversary & a Special Cake

Yesterday I celebrated five years of marriage with my husband, Dave!  Our marriage story is a unique one.  We didn’t have a wedding.  We weren’t even there when we got married.  Dave was in Iraq.  I was in Washington.  We were married in Montana.

WHAT? HUH? Don’t get it?  It’s okay…. it’s complicated.

You see, my husband I met in December 2006 and he left for his first tour in Iraq in April of 2007.  A few days before he deployed, Dave ask me to marry him at Safeco Field (home of the Seattle Mariners) on the big screen in center field.  Of course, my heart swooned and I said YES!  A few days later he left for Iraq and my heart was broken.

April 7, 2007 – The morning Dave left for Iraq

It didn’t take but a few weeks of Dave being in a combat zone that he confessed to me that he wished he would have married me before he deployed so that he’d know that me and my daughter would be taken care of if something were to happen to him.  (Let’s not even think about the “what-if’s” of that scenario).  So, without hesitation I began researching a way to make this happen.  How could we get married while he was deployed?

Another soldier in Dave’s company had recently gone through a similar situation and I reached out to his new wife for advice.  She told me about a lawyer in Montana that could help us.  I contacted that lawyer and he told me the process was simple.  Montana was the only state that allowed marriages by proxy.  Meaning one or two of the parties were not present, but had someone stand in for them.  Wow.  I couldn’t believe you could actually do this.  So, I sent the lawyer all the necessary paperwork and his fee and I waited.  And waited.  And waited.

I waited until July 26, 2007 when I got a phone call that changed my life forever.   It was my lawyer and he had just returned from the courthouse in Montana.   We were married.  It had only been official for about 30 minutes by the time he called me.  I jumped for joy in excitement and I couldn’t wait to tell Dave!  I had to wait several hours until that evening before I could tell my new husband of our marriage when he got online to chat with me from Iraq.  We were married!  I was his wife.  He was my husband.  I was the happiest girl on the planet.

When I was a girl, like every little girl, I dreamed of a perfect fairy-tale wedding with a perfect dress, flowers, and cake.  This however, my real life fairy-tale, was so much better than anything I ever dreamed of as a girl.  I had my prince, a man who was willing to lay down his life for his country and for me.  I felt, and still feel, honored to be his wife and I love him more today than I ever imagined possible.

Zurich, Switzerland – June 2012

About a month ago I decided I wanted to make a special cake for our 5th anniversary.  We’ve been through so much in our first 5 years of marriage (2 deployments to Iraq, the death of my Mother, a move to Germany and the birth of our son… to just name a few) and I wanted to make a cake for us to cut and share together, something we never got to experience when we were first married.

I had been eyeballing Amanda from i am baker‘s tutorials on how to make a vertical layer rose buttercream cake.  This cake was way out of my league, but her tutorials made them seem to obtainable, so easy.  So, I set my mind on it and I started my research.

I read these posts from i am baker:

Vertical Layer Cake Tutorial

Rose Cake Tutorial

The Perfect Crusting Buttercream

I knew I didn’t want to fuss with the cake itself, so I planned to use a box chocolate cake and a box strawberry cake.  I wasn’t too sure how I felt about an all shortening buttercream like the one Amanda suggests, so I used a combo of butter and shortening in my frosting and it crusted up perfectly and tasted wonderfully.

Here are a few things I learned while making this cake…

  1. FOLLOW THE DIRECTIONS!  Seriously, read what Amanda has written and truly take it to heart.  She has spent a lot of time practicing how to make this cake and she lays it out so simply in her tutorial.  Read it, study and take it step by step.
  2. DON’T RUSH! Take your time! I found myself so excited at times to make this cake that I found myself rushing.  I had to remind myself to breathe and enjoy the process.
  3. The simple syrup that Amanda mentions in the Vertical Cake tutorial… don’t skip it.  In fact, every time you make a cake that you’ll be putting in the freezer to set… use it.  My box cake turned out so moist and delicious with this syrup added.  It’s definitely a “must-do” for future recipes.
  4. I CAN DO IT!  *phew* The cake is finished and I gotta say… I’m pretty darn proud of myself! It’s not perfect by any means, but damn… it’s pretty!  I’ve been saying for along time… “I don’t make cakes.”  But hey, maybe I do… when I put my mind to it, I can do anything!

Since this actually makes two cakes, I plan to use the extra for a birthday party for a little neighbor girl this weekend.  I’ll update this post after I frost that cake.  She’s having a rainbow party, so I’m think about doing lots of fun colors with the frosting!

I’m really excited to see what I can come up with in another five years!!

HAPPY 5th ANNIVERSARY, HUSBAND!  I love you more today than I did yesterday!  Thank you for the best five years of my life! I feel so blessed and loved and honored to be spending my life with you! xoxo  And I look forward to the next five years!

Cinnamon Crescent Rolls & a New Baby

I’m baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack!  Well… back to baking, that is.  I’m about at 20% right now, but I wanted to get back in the kitchen and bake something our first weekend home with my new baby boy.

Oh, you didn’t know I had a baby?  YES… this week, Monday!

Matthew William was born (via c- section) on Monday, March 5, 2012 at 8:31am in Weiden in der Oberfalz, Germany weighing 5lbs 12oz and 19.5in long.  He has all 10 fingers and 10 toes, blue eyes, brown hair and looks just like his daddy! He’s pretty  much perfect and I’m so in love with him.

Matty came home on Thursday and this morning I decided that I wanted to bake something simple.  I can only stand for a few minutes at a time since I’m healing so slowly.  (In Germany, they don’t give you any pain medication or send you home with anything after a c-section, so I hurt… a lot.) I decided to use a can of pre-made crescent rolls and saucy them up with ooey gooey filling of cinnamon, sugar and butter.  It only took me about 10 minutes to put together and a few more in the oven before these breakfast pastries were ready!  A perfect way to get back in to the kitchen!

Cinnamon Crescent Rolls

Prep Time: 7 minutes

Cook Time: 11 minutes

Total Time: 20 minutes

8 rolls

Quick, simple and delicious breakfast rolls filled with butter, sugar and spice! YUM!

Ingredients

    Rolls:
  • 1 can of refrigerator crescent rolls (I used Original Pillsbury)
  • 1/4 cup unsalted butter, soft
  • 1/4 cup brown sugar, NOT packed
  • 2 Tbsp sugar
  • 1 1/2 tsp cinnamon
  • 1/2 tsp nutmeg
  • Glaze:
  • 1/4 cup powdered sugar
  • 1-2 Tbsp heavy cream (you can use milk if you don't have cream)
  • pinch cinnamon

Instructions

    Rolls:
  1. Preheat oven to the temperature listed on the refrigerator crescent rolls packaging. Line cookie sheet with parchment paper.
  2. In a small prep bowl, add butter, sugars, cinnamon and nutmeg. Using the back of a spatula, press the sugars and spices into the butter until combined.
  3. Roll out the crescent rolls and separate each triangle, laying them out on your counter or work surface. Scoop a Tbsp of the butter/sugar mixture onto each piece of dough and spread evenly across the entire surface.
  4. Roll the dough as you normally would and place on prepared cookie sheet.
  5. Bake 1-3 minutes longer than what the crescent roll baking instructions require. NOTE: Filling will ooze out of the rolls onto the sheet. Don't worry! You can scoop this out with each roll and it's delicious!
  6. Remove immediately to a wire rack to cool.
  7. Drizzle with glaze before serving.
  8. Glaze:
  9. In a small bowl, mix together the powdered sugar and 1 Tbsp of cream with a fork.
  10. Add upto one more Tbsp of cream until you come to a consistency which can be drizzled over the rolls.
  11. Add a pinch of cinnamon and mix in.
  12. Drizzle glaze over slightly cooled rolls.
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Baby Shower Cupcakes

Today was my baby shower for my little nugget I’ve got growing in my belly! This little one is due in March and my great friend, Chrissy, was kind enough to throw me a baby shower.

Of course, we wanted the BEST for my shower, so I made my own cupcakes!  I made my favorite chocolate stout cake and topped it with my favorite vanilla frosting.  SOOO YUMMMY!

I bought some toppers from Bake it Pretty and Chrissy ordered some wrappers and toppers that matched my owl theme and the rest of the party decorations.  I think they turned out pretty cute!

Oh…. and I made this peanut butter cheeseball that was TO DIE FOR.

I’m sitting at 34.5 weeks pregnant with just over a month left to go!!

COME ON BABY!

34.5 weeks pregnant!

Me and my 12 year old daughter, Emily

 

 

We’re Moving! (Survey Inside)

Yes, it’s true… I am leaving the Pacific Northwest in just a few short weeks and am moving my whole family to Germany!  My husband is being stationed in Grafenwoehr, Germany for at least three years and I will be taking my blog with me! [Read more...]

Proud day for the Eves!

Today was a big day for my family!  We celebrated the official homecoming of our 4th Brigade, 2nd Infantry Division Raiders and the end to a very long year in Iraq is finally here!  All the soldiers are home and the Brigade Colors were uncased during an amazing ceremony on Joint Base Lewis McChord.

During the ceremony,  I had the honor of being awarded the “Department of the Army, Commander’s Award for Civilian Service”.

The award reads:

“For superior service and invaluable contributions to the soldiers and families of the 2nd Battalion, 23rd Infantry Regiment and the 4th Stryker Brigade, 2nd Infantry Division (Raiders) from June 2007 to October 2009.  She inspires others around her with her energy, enthusiasm and optimism.  Her positive attitude and selfless service serve as a role model to those around her.  Her actions reflect a great credit upon her, the families of the Raider Brigade and the United States Army.

Signed by Col. John G Norris – Commanding”

My husband was also awarded the “Army Commendation Medal” for his service to his country while fighting in Operation Iraqi Freedom.

I am so honored to be given this awarded and feel privileged to be a part of the Raider Brigade, the Tomahawk Battalion and the Crazyhorse Company!

What a great day for my family, our unit, and our country!

And… just because I love this picture…. here’s my best friend Heather and her soldier!

The Eves and The Shorts!

On a personal note…

This isn’t going to be a sweet blog. It’s not going to be about buttercream or cupcakes. It’s a serious blog about a very serious topic close to my heart. [Read more...]

Rest & Relaxation

My husband will be home any day!! I can’t believe either…. Eight months apart and in just days, I’ll be in his arms again for what will be the most amazing 15 days of my life! [Read more...]

Lime Green Raspberry Birthday Cupcakes

This past weekend was my nieces 12th birthday party and she requested my White Velvet Raspberry cupcakes for her party.  The first time I made these for a client, they were all pink and super cute! But I knew my niece wasn’t exactly a pink girl… she is more into turquoise and lime green and those kinds of colors.  So, I went on a hunt to make these cupcakes match her personality!

I started looking on Etsy to find some liners which would match perfectly for my niece and found turquoise with green polka dot liners.  I mean really, it’s like they were made just for her! So super cute!! I ordered them and they arrived the morning I was baking the cupcakes.  Well….. unfortunately, the company I ordered them from sent me the wrong liners.

<-the ones I wanted

Apparently, she had two liners with the same name and sent me the other ones.  Needless to say, I wasn’t very happy and I didn’t have time to search out a local store potentially an hour away just for new liners.  So, I made do with these and wrote an email to the company I bought them from.  (Who didn’t really offer much help other than a discount on a future order.  It’s not like these things are that expensive, so a discount?? lol no, I’m good. Thanks)

After I got over that little fiasco, it was time to make the cupcakes and they turned out amazing!  Made a special pedestal for my niece to hold one perfect cupcake just for her and she was thrilled with it.  I told her that she’ll be able to put the pedestal on her dresser next to her jewelry box and keep her special rings and necklaces and such on them.

I also created several pedestals with some fun things I found at thrift stores.  A couple of them even matched the cupcakes perfectly!

And finally…. the birthday girl with her cupcake and pedestal!

Emily was so happy with these cupcakes and loved everything about them!  Everyone at the party gave me rave reviews and some even said they were the best cupcakes they’ve ever tasted! YAY me!!!  I got two referrals and hopefully they’ll turn into orders! :)

Fields of Cake sends goodies to my husband in Iraq

I’ve been following Carrie of Fields of Cake and Other Good Stuff for at least a year now and I’m loving everything she bakes! [Read more...]

Cupcakes and Baseball

For any of you who really know me, you’ll know that I love three things… Dave Matthews Band, Cupcakes and Baseball!  And I just found out the best news that brings two of my favorite things together! [Read more...]

Guidelines for Shipping to Deployed Service Members

I was asked by my friend Carrie of Fields of Cake to put together a “How-To” for shipping goodies to deployed service members. [Read more...]

Birthday Cake, Big Sister Style

This weekend was my father’s 69th birthday party (Happy Birthday Daddy!) and my big sister was in charge of baking the cake.  Dad requested a white cake with white frosting… yummmm! [Read more...]

Valentine’s Day

I delivered two dozen “Love Cupcakes” to my daughter’s class today for their Valentine’s Day party. [Read more...]

Meet JavaCupcake!

 Hello!!! My name is Betsy and I’m a lover of cupcakes! I’m also a 30-something Army Wife and Mommy, recent college graduate, and an avid Dave Matthews Band Fan.  I live in Tacoma, WA with my husband, daughter and two kitties! I’m a stay at home mom, baker, best friend and music lover!

Currently, my family is in the middle of surviving our second deployment. My husband is in Baghdad, Iraq serving his country, protecting our freedoms and my right to bake cupcakes! :)

My daughter, Emily, she’s 10 years old and is full of life! She’s definitely a “pre-teen” and has an opinion about everything! She’s my angel though and I love her more than life. She’s my reason for everything!

This is my cupcake blog!! I share photos, recipes, my successes and my failures all revolving around cupcakes cupcakes! When I’m not sharing my own cupcakes and recipes… I’m sharing photos, tips and stores about cupcakes from all over the world!

You can also read more about me on my personal blog, Tales of a Firedancer, where I share my life as an Army Wife, Mother, Friend and Daughter.

If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to email me at betsy@javacupcake.com.  Thank you!

2010 JavaCupcake Goals

I’m not a huge fan of resolutions. I feel like when I make them, I always fail at them. So this year, I’m setting some goals for myself and this blog that I feel could be obtainable. In no particular order of importance, here’s the list!

1. TAKE BETTER PICTURES
I have plans to get a really nice camera this year and I’d like to learn how to photograph my cupcakes better. I’ve seen some really awesome shots of cupcakes that are as beautiful as they are artistic… and I’m jealous. So, this goal is to learn to take better pictures of my cupcakes!

(Photo: Trophy Cupcakes)

2. FOCUS MY BLOG ON MORE THAN JUST MY CUPCAKES
I have learned this year that it’s not realistic for me to think I can bake a new cupcake every week or even every month. Sometimes, I just don’t have a reason to make them or I’m just not feeling baking, so I’d like to give myself permission to write about more than just my recipes. I’ve been doing that a little more lately, but I’d like to incorporate other peoples recipes, guest bloggers, posts about cupcake merchandise, etc etc. I known there are a lot of other blogs out there that do this, so I’ll keep my main focus on my cupcakes as much as possible.

(Photo: JavaCupcake)

3. PERFECT MY FROSTING SKILLS
I make a pretty damn good buttercream.  I mean really, it’s amazing.  But, I haven’t perfected the art of using the pastry bag and those little tips that make cute shapes.  I want to explore the art of frosting and come up with a signature frost for my cupcakes.  My goal is to practice, practice, practice until I can come up with a dozen perfectly frosted with a tip cupcakes.

(Photo: Two Parts Sugar)

4. MASTER THE BASIC CUPCAKE FLAVORS
I’ve made almost 20 cupcake flavors this past year that I’ve never made before.  None of them I’ve completly perfected.  I’ve found two recipes which I consider to be EXCELLENT in their flavor, but I have yet to make them the ultimate cupcake.  My goal for 2010 is to perfect my Super Moist Chocolate cupcake and my Vanilla cupcake and to have the perfect “Go-To Recipe” that I know will always be a hit!

(Photo: JavaCupcake)

5.SLOW DOWN
Cupcake baking is not a race! Sometimes I just get so excited to be baking that I hurry up and the end result isn’t the perfection that I want it to be.  I need to do a better job at slowing down, breathing, taking my time and enjoying every step of the cupcake baking process.

(Photo: JavaCupcake)

My Little Cupcake is 10!!

My little Cupcake turns 10 years old today!!  She’s the sweetest little thing that’s ever happened to me and I can’t believe it’s been 10 years since she was born!!

Happy Birthday Emily!!

 

Vegas, DMB, and Deployments

Hey everyone!

Thanks for all of the wonderful love I got last month from the Secret is in the Sauce ladies! I wanted to post a quick update on what’s been going on in my world and why there has been a lack of frequent posts.

Earlier this Spring, my husbands unit got his deployment orders to Iraq, 10 months sooner than originally planned. At the time, I was very close to finishing up my degree from UW and my daughter was finishing 3rd grade. Since thing, I’ve graduated and my daughter started summer vacation… and of course, I’ve been spending as much time as I possibly can with my soldier. We took a vacation to Las Vegas (where of course I visited Kari at Retro Bakery), have gone to a bunch of movies, dinners out, day trips to Seattle, and most recently a weekend at the Gorge for the Dave Matthews Band concert. Next week, my husband will board a plane to begin his journey to Iraq, his 2nd tour there in 3 years. I’m dreading the day he leaves and until then, I plan to spend as much time as I possibly can by his side.

So, this is why I haven’t been posting very much and why I don’t know if I will be posting much again soon. I anticipate that after he leaves and the initial shock has lessened, I will feel like baking again. So… until then, thank you for your continued loyalty and support.

Happy Cupcakes.

Betsy

New posts… Coming SOON!

Hello All!!!

I know I’ve been MIA lately with the posts. Life has been a whirlwind lately and it’s not over yet. This week, I’ll be posting about my trip to Retro Bakery in Las Vegas and the opportunity to meet the owner Kari! What an honor that was!! So… stay tuned for photos and my thoughts on this lovely little bakery!

I’m hoping to get back to baking here in late September… so THANK you for you loyalty and support during this time!!

Love you all lots!

101 Ways to THANK a Military Spouse

Happy Military Spouse Appreciation Day! In honor of the spouses that work so hard on the home-front, here is a list of 101 Ways to Thank a Military Spouse!

It is about Respect, Love, Admiration, Appreciation, and a simple Thank You.

Enjoy!
  1. A simple “Thank You for Serving, too”
  2. CHOCOLATE
  3. Take the time to *listen* She may not have had an adult conversation for quite some time!
  4. Don’t assume HE is not a military spouse. Thank the military-husbands too.
  5. Pick up something at the store that reminds you of her; a potted-plant, a bouquet of flowers, a bottle of wine, nail-polish & nail files, etc etc
  6. Give her a call! Say ‘Thank You’ and find out how her day is going.
  7. A day at the spa!
  8. FREE child-care. Watch her children for her. Let her do something on her own.
  9. Invite her out for a local-sight-seeing tour. She might not know the area & enjoy learning.
  10. Equip her.
  11. Take a spouse out for coffee or tea.
  12. Pray for him. Pray for her.
  13. Make a fancy-drink. Pour two glasses. One for you, one for her. Make toasts and enjoy together.
  14. *Give* him a book from your book-shelf that you enjoyed.
  15. Offer to wash her car (Don’t forget to vacuum)
  16. Business-owners: Host a special event just for spouses, don’t do it for monetary gain.
  17. Do you garden? Bring her some of your produce; flowers, fruits, vegetables.
  18. Give her personal space to miss her loved one. Then open-up your arms to take her in.
  19. Gather your mutual-friends. Have a multi-family picnic.
  20. If she calls asking for something, a cup of milk, some eggs, potatoes etc etc Lend with a cheerful heart and don’t expect your ‘gift’ back!
  21. Buy her a military-spouse shirt. Have it shipped to her: http://shop.cafepress.com/military-spouse
  22. Find a military-spouse book she might enjoy: http://tinyurl.com/csm6wb
  23. Plan a play-date at your house. Get the kids together and enjoy the day.
  24. Sit with him at church. Not many enjoy sitting in the pew alone.
  25. Take a picture. Send it in an email to her.
  26. Offer to help with yard-work!
  27. Give her privacy if you sense she does not want to open up.
  28. Send her a quick note (on hand-made stationary if you are feeling crafty).
  29. Say Thank You with food. Its the way to our heart!
  30. Send her an email, let her know you miss her if you haven’t seen each other in awhile.
  31. If you haven’t seen her for some time because of distance look at the calendar. When can you visit? Don’t always expect her to do the travelling home.
  32. Get excited over something he is excited about!
  33. Take her children to the park. Ask if she WANTS to come to. Some spouses like time alone; others want adult-company. It might just depend on her mood.
  34. Give him a genuine smile; remember, a smile is worth a thousand words!
  35. Compliment her children
  36. Send an anonymous note of encouragement
  37. Do you have a favorite magazine? Send her a subscription
  38. Call her up. Ask if she wants to go out and get some ice-cream!
  39. Run across a funny comic-strip or joke that reminded you of him? Clip it and send in a letter.
  40. Do you see a new face in the crowd? She might be a new-spouse. Go over and introduce yourself.
  41. If a seasoned-spouse does something that makes you feel welcomed, say Thank You. It’ll make her feel good, too.
  42. Business Owners: Offer a Military-Discount (List it on MilitaryAvenue.com)
  43. Don’t assume she knows that you appreciate her sacrifice as a military-spouse. Say it.
  44. Organizations: Host a special military-spouse tea. It doesn’t have to be ‘fussy’, just fun!
  45. If you are standing in line at the commissary and she is behind you with a cart full of food, fussy babies & screaming toddlers let her go in front of you. *Everyone* may say Thank You.
  46. Say good-things about her spouse, the service-member. It can feel like a reflection of her.
  47. Are you the service-member? Wash your spouse’s feet. What a humbling, gratifying act for the woman (or man!) you love so much.
  48. Give her a list of things she has done for you. Take 5 minutes and make a list of 10 to 50 things you love about her.
  49. Appreciate that “How are you holding up” isn’t always the best question to ask the spouse of a deployed service member!
  50. Make her a CD full of all the songs that remind you of her. Keep it cheery!
  51. Don’t forget the Military Husband! Include him while planning spouse-functions
  52. Pick up a bottle of bubble bath. Deliver it with a small note of appreciation.
  53. Respect her decisions. If she says she can’t do it let her ‘no be no’.
  54. Give to Operation Showers of Appreciation for ‘expecting’ moms with deployed spouses: http://www.operationshowersofappreciation.org/
  55. Offer a simple-hug. Amazing what ‘touch’ can do to heal the soul. But respect personal space if that is an issue.
  56. Go to an art-class together. Many bases have an Art-Shop, or find a local business where you can make jewelry or paint-ceramics together.
  57. Take him out to a ball game; either a local pro- or semi-pro. Buy him a beer and a hot dog. And enjoy the evening!
  58. Are her kids sick? Is SHE sick? Offer to help. Bring over chicken-noodle soup. Run to the store for some 7-Up. Find out what she needs.
  59. Service-members: Help her with the laundry! Help put it away without being asked.
  60. Did she make a dish for a social-gathering? Compliment her. Ask for the recipe! Tell someone that is near you how good it is.
  61. Contact your local Television or Radio Station. Do *they* know it is Military Spouse Appreciation Day?
  62. Don’t forget to say ‘Please’ if you need her. She is probably juggling quite a bit at once. She will appreciate being asked, as opposed to told.
  63. Chamber of Commerce: Host a special city-wide event for your military families. (Place your event on MilitaryAvenue.com at your closest installations to get the word out.)
  64. Take the time to find out how his weekend was. Where the family went, what they did, how his son’s baseball game was.
  65. Show her politeness, thoughtfulness and helpfulness. Open the door for her, pick up something she dropped.
  66. Service-member: Buy “a little something” for the bedroom that you know s/he’ll enjoy. ;)
  67. Help her start a hobby. As an example, if you scrapbook offer to help her get started if she is interested.
  68. Businesses: Hold a contest that will benefit the military spouse like, “Laptops for Flattops” (http://tinyurl.com/dkv6ob)
  69. Service-member: Whisper sweet-nothings in your spouse’s ear. Tell him how much you appreciate him.
  70. Help her children make an “I Love You, Mom” card. Get artsy with glitter and glue and construction paper.
  71. Make some cookies with your kids & have them deliver them. Teach your own children gratitude for our military-families. She will appreciate it.
  72. Do you make cards? Send blank ones to @cardsforheroes. They send them to deployed soldiers to can send a note home on – a treasure for a military spouse!
  73. A very simple, heartfelt thank you means the world. Oh, and donuts too.
  74. Businesses: Contact your installations Family Service Center and find out what you can do for the families on base. (http://militarymarketing.militaryavenue.com/2009/05/how-to-get-involved-in-your-military.html)
  75. Invite him over for a game on TV. Sit back and enjoy a beer together.
  76. When cooking dinner, make enough for two families. Bring half to a military-family or invite their family over.
  77. Benefit Of The Doubt. A little BOTD can go a long way to show your appreciation for the military-spouse.
  78. Make an acrostic with his/her name filled with adjectives about their strengths.
  79. Flexibility is the name of game. Be flexible in making plans. Things happen out of her control.
  80. When thanking a soldier for their service, thank their spouse, too!
  81. Play a game of catch with her children. They may be missing the presence of a man in their life.
  82. Businesses: Have a special gift for all the military spouses that come through your door; a key chain, a nail file, keep it simple.
  83. Hit a mid-day movie together. Buy a large popcorn to share!
  84. Invite her to a bible-study at your church. What a great way to meet new people!
  85. Grab the strollers and take a walk together!
  86. Servicemen – Buy her favorite lotion and give her a back rub.
  87. Businesses – Having a special contest? Ask a military spouse to be a judge. She’ll be honored.
  88. Call, Send an email, leave a comment to her/him. Sometimes the smallest gesture means much more than you think.
  89. Service-member: Sign up for dance classes with your spouse.
  90. Take time to get to know HER/HIM. He/she is more than a military spouse.
  91. Do you have a friend you know she would enjoy knowing? Introduce them!
  92. Do they have a green-thumb? Give a potted plant. “Bloom where you are planted” and a note that says thanks
  93. Invite him over for a bbq on a Friday night!
  94. Businesses: Do you see the flash of her ID when she makes a transaction? Be sure to say Thank you for her service!
  95. Military Spouse in the family? Laminate a special card with the families’ phone numbers, addresses, birthdays. Help her keep organized.
  96. Service-Member: Take Leave on your anniversary. Do something special together.
  97. Do you have a pool (or just a slip-n-slide!) invite the military-family over. Have a big pitcher of lemonade ready!
  98. Plan a girls’ day… manicures, pedicures and lunch!
  99. Create a Themed box or basket for her. Drop it off at her door anonymously with a note of appreciation.
  100. Businesses: Encourage your colleagues to offer a meaningful military-discount. Make yourself a town that appreciates the military!
  101. Make her stop, breathe, and ASK “How can I help?” and then do it.

About Java Cupcake

***Visit my personal blog! Tales of a Firedancer.***

Welcome to my little corner of the cupcake world!! Here you will find fun cupcake videos, pictures, and recipes! I’ll also be posting my adventures, success & upsets while trying new cupcake recipes!

Java Cupcake was established Feb, 15, 2009 and has been growing strong every since. The goal is to cultivate Java Cupcake into a business where I can sell my cupcake creations to people local to Washington state for parties and events!

Rumor Control

Since the rumors are flying… I thought I’d let everyone know what’s been going on with us the last 24 hours.

Yesterday, I went to Madigan for a routine monthly baby exam. Dave had tried to get off at work, but the powers at be didn’t let him come to the appointment (although I was told bye the CO that he could be there). So I had my Mom and Dad there with me. After answering all the standard questions, the doctor rolled in the ultrasound machine to look for sack the baby is in and to hear the heartbeat. The doctor squeezes the gell on my belly and proceeds to look for the baby. 5 minutes pass by, 10 minutes… the doctor tells us this is a new machine and it’s his first time using it. So, he calls another doctor in for a second opinion. The second doctor comes in, now it’s been 20 minutes, and he looks. They tried both the belly and vaginal ultrasound. Neither doctor could find a baby.

This meant 1 of 3 things. 1)It was too early to see the baby (which I knew wasn’t the case, I was at least 13 weeks) 2)It was a miscarriage or 3)It was an ectopic or tubal pregnancy. The doctors said they were going to send me to the lab to get more blood drawn to see what the horomone levels in my body were to determine pregnancy. At this point, I thought it was pretty important that Dave come to Madigan and go through all of this with me. So, I call the CO and he gets Dave to me with in the hour. I get my blood drawn and head home to wait for the phone call from the doctor to tell me what the outcome is.

A couple hours later, the doctor calls me back and informs us that it was a miscarriage and that the cramping I experienced several weeks back was probably when it happened. So tomorrow I go in to OB at Madigan to have one final ultrasound to 100% confirm and figure out if a D&C needs to happen. The docs don’t think so… but want to be sure.

So, we’re okay. This sucks… but in the light of the upcoming deployment, we feel a bit relieved. I still want to have a baby and will try again. Just now wasn’t the right time.

I think for at least the time being, we just need our space and time to grieve. Thank you to everyone who called, emailed, texted your condolances. Your support is really appreciated.

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